I found this article, posted below, on Fertility Neighborhood. As women, especially ones who want to be surrogates or egg donors, we often ask what are the "reproductive years"? I hope that this post answers some of your questions. (please note that it was reviewed in 2005)
The Reproductive Years
A woman's reproductive years, approximately ages 15-44, are the years in which she can become pregnant and bear children. The defining characteristic of this stage is the presence of regular menstrual cycles, which generally indicate that a woman is ovulating. Cycles usually become regular within two years of the first menstrual period (menarche).
Reproductive ability peaks around age 29 and then gradually decreases. After age 35, reproductive potential wanes rapidly, and by age 44, the chances of conceiving and bearing a child are slim.
The Menstrual Cycle
The menstrual cycle is designed to prepare the endometrium (the lining of the uterus) for pregnancy. The average length for a menstrual cycle is 28 days, but individual women can have cycles as short as 25 days and as long as 32 days and still be considered in the range of normal. In general, you can expect your period to begin approximately two weeks from the date of ovulation. In a 28 day cycle, ovulation typically occurs between the 13th and 15th day. Each month's cycle can be divided into three phases. There are two ways to look at these three phases. One way, called the ovulatory cycle, is based on the function of the ovaries, as follows:
In the follicular phase, many oocytes (immature eggs) begin to go through the maturation process. The oocytes are housed in follicles (fluid-filled sacs) on the ovary. By day 5-7, one follicle becomes dominant. The chosen follicle continues to develop, and secretes increasing levels of the hormone estrogen (in a form called estradiol). The follicles that were not selected recede.
In the ovulatory phase, the egg in the dominant follicle completes its final stages of maturation. At midcycle, the increasing estrogen level prompts a surge of luteinizing hormone (LH) from the pituitary. At that signal, the follicle ruptures (breaks open), releasing the egg, which begins traveling toward the uterus.
In the luteal phase, the remnant of the ruptured follicle transforms into the corpus luteum. Instead of estrogen, it now produces the hormone progesterone.
At the same time that the ovulatory cycle is proceeding, the menstrual cycle is also occurring. From this point of view, it's possible to define the three phases of the cycle based on the activity of the endometrium, as follows:
The menstrual phase occurs if there is no pregnancy already growing in the uterus. The uterus sloughs off the mature endometrium, causing a menstrual period.
In the proliferative phase, the endometrium begins to develop and thicken, in response to the estrogen secreted by the developing follicles. The number of glandular cells and surrounding stromal (support or structural) cells in the endometrium increase.
In the secretory phase, the endometrium continues to develop, responding to the progesterone secreted by the corpus luteum in the ovary. The endometrium is mature for eight to nine days after ovulation. If fertilization does not occur, the endometrium begins to regress.
During the luteal phase and the simultaneous secretory phase, one of two things happens. If the egg was fertilized and succeeds in implanting in the uterus, a pregnancy begins. The implanted embryo begins to develop a placenta, the organ that will nourish the fetus during pregnancy. The early placental cells begin to produce a hormone called human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG). This hormone signals the corpus luteum to maintain its progesterone production through the first six to nine weeks of pregnancy. The progesterone, in turn, signals the endometrium to stay in place in the uterus.
Alternatively, if the egg is not fertilized, there is no embryo to implant in the uterus. About 14 days after ovulation, progesterone production by the corpus luteum falls to the point that it no longer sustains the endometrium. The uterus sheds the endometrial tissue, causing a menstrual period. The first day of menstrual bleeding counts as the first day of the cycle.
The 14-day lifespan of the corpus luteum is determined by a preset clock, allowing enough time for implantation to occur. Therefore, the luteal phase is generally a constant 14 days. In women whose cycles are longer or shorter than the typical 28 days, the variation occurs in the first half of the cycle.
The Menstrual Period
The endometrium consists of two layers. The top layer, called the spongiosum, contains blood vessels, fluid, and tissue. The lower layer, called the basalis, contains special cells that are capable of regenerating the spongiosum. When estrogen and progesterone levels fall at the end of the menstrual cycle, small blood vessels within the endometrial lining go into rhythmic contractions called vasospasm. This separates the two layers. The spongiosum drops off, creating menstrual bleeding, while the basalis remains in place.
Because there is so much variation among individual women, there is no one definition of a normal period. In general, though, menstruation is considered normal when bleeding occurs every 21-35 days and lasts between three and seven days. Menstrual flow normally starts out light and is rusty in color, becoming heavier and brighter red for a few days, then lessening and darkening again toward the end. Typically less than 80 milliliters (about 5 tablespoons) of blood is lost during a typical menstrual period, although it often may appear to be more.
Ovulation
If you have a regular menstrual cycle, that usually means you are ovulating. However, it's possible to have vaginal bleeding that looks like a period without releasing an egg. Determining if and when ovulation is occurring is an essential step in fertility treatment. Your doctor can help you choose the best way to detect ovulation so that you can increase your chances of becoming pregnant.
It is not uncommon for many women to feel ovulation as lower abdominal discomfort in the middle of their cycle. This discomfort, called mittelschmerz, may be due to irritation of the lining of the pelvis and abdomen from the chemical substances released by the ruptured follicle.
Other cycle-related signs and symptoms that are likely to mean you are ovulating include:
• breast tenderness
• fluid retention
• menstrual cramps
• back pain
• mood changes
• a midcycle increase in cervical mucus
• a midcycle increase in your basal body temperature
Reviewed on January 3, 2005 by Gina Paoletti-Falcone, RN, BSN.
Sharon
http://infertilityanswers.org/
Friday, February 27, 2009
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Slective Reduction: Who Chooses?
Q~~ I have a question that may be a sensitive one regarding Selective Reduction. Who makes the reduction decision? (where there are no medical issues compelling a reduction)Can the IPs and surro make the decision together? What if they disagree?
It's her body but it's our baby - such a difficult issue. ~EM
A~~ Selective Reduction should be talked about before the first transfer takes place and it is often mentioned in the contract as either something that would be considered and what the fee for the surrogate (for recovery, pain and suffering) would be if she had to endure such a procedure. Your RE/Clinic should have the discussion when first meeting a surrogate as well. If she is petite and obviously would have a physical problem carrying anything over triplets then they may highly recommend that you reduce anything over twins. Even if the RE only transfers 2 embryos they could split into triplets or more. It seldom happens but its always good to be aware. So for the health of the surrogate, Selective Reduction could be highly recommended under those circumstances.
Another issue would be what the Intended Parents want to raise. They may not be financially or emotionally capable of raising more then twins (and I am using twins here because it is very rare for twins to be reduced down to a single fetus because the entire pregnancy could be lost). If the Intended Parents are set on having no more then twins, they have to find a like minded surrogate that doesn't have a religious or ethical issue with selective reduction.
The bottom line here is that the surrogate can change her mind in either case. She can decide that she isn't able to selectively reduce when she is faced with the actual fact of multiples and decides to carry them even against Dr. orders or what she previously agreed to in the contract OR she decides not to selectively reduce because of a change of heart and the reality of an abortion is too hard for her to consider. On the other hand she may keep the entire pregnancy even against the 'carrying more then twins' issue as stated in the contract when faced with a 'litter' of babies and considering all health risks, continues to want to keep the pregnancy in tact, although at the time of the contract she was sure that she would want to reduce. In either case it is ultimately her decision as Selective Reduction is, in reality, abortion and any pregnant woman has the right to choose under Row vs Wade.
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
It's her body but it's our baby - such a difficult issue. ~EM
A~~ Selective Reduction should be talked about before the first transfer takes place and it is often mentioned in the contract as either something that would be considered and what the fee for the surrogate (for recovery, pain and suffering) would be if she had to endure such a procedure. Your RE/Clinic should have the discussion when first meeting a surrogate as well. If she is petite and obviously would have a physical problem carrying anything over triplets then they may highly recommend that you reduce anything over twins. Even if the RE only transfers 2 embryos they could split into triplets or more. It seldom happens but its always good to be aware. So for the health of the surrogate, Selective Reduction could be highly recommended under those circumstances.
Another issue would be what the Intended Parents want to raise. They may not be financially or emotionally capable of raising more then twins (and I am using twins here because it is very rare for twins to be reduced down to a single fetus because the entire pregnancy could be lost). If the Intended Parents are set on having no more then twins, they have to find a like minded surrogate that doesn't have a religious or ethical issue with selective reduction.
The bottom line here is that the surrogate can change her mind in either case. She can decide that she isn't able to selectively reduce when she is faced with the actual fact of multiples and decides to carry them even against Dr. orders or what she previously agreed to in the contract OR she decides not to selectively reduce because of a change of heart and the reality of an abortion is too hard for her to consider. On the other hand she may keep the entire pregnancy even against the 'carrying more then twins' issue as stated in the contract when faced with a 'litter' of babies and considering all health risks, continues to want to keep the pregnancy in tact, although at the time of the contract she was sure that she would want to reduce. In either case it is ultimately her decision as Selective Reduction is, in reality, abortion and any pregnant woman has the right to choose under Row vs Wade.
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
Sunday, February 22, 2009
EDSPA Comments on the California Octuplet Case
Over recent years medical research has pointed out the benefits of reducing the number of embryos transferred during the IVF cycle with a marked reduction in the number of higher order multiple births. ORLANDO, FL, February 22, 2009 /24-7PressRelease/ -- The Egg Donation and Surrogacy Professional Association (EDSPA), as a multidisciplinary organization that promotes cooperation, education and professional ethics in the matters of gestational carriers, traditional surrogacy, egg, sperm and embryo donation, and related areas, would like to support the further investigation by the medical and legal community into the circumstances surrounding the conception of the octuplets and ethical practices that were involved.
Over the last decade, the American Society of Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) and the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology (SART) have worked diligently to reduce the number of high order multiple births resulting from IVF treatments. They have produced guidelines restricting the number of embryos transferred during IVF. Published research confirms that these guidelines have led to fewer embryos being transferred and a marked reduction in the number of high order multiple births.
EDSPA Board of Directors:
Robert T. Terenzio, Esq., Chairman of the Board
Evelina Weidman Sterling, Chair Education/Consulting
Souad Dreyfus, Chair Egg Donation
Sharon LaMothe, Chair Surrogacy
Andrea Bryman, LMFT, Chair Medical/Psychology
Marna Gatlin, Chair Non-Profit
Theresa M Erickson, Esq., Chair Member at Large
About EDSPA
The Egg Donation and Surrogacy Professional Association accomplishes it's mission by providing a forum for education, communication and advocacy on behalf of patients, physicians, attorneys, agencies and affiliated professionals in the field of Third Party Family Formation.
Over the last decade, the American Society of Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) and the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology (SART) have worked diligently to reduce the number of high order multiple births resulting from IVF treatments. They have produced guidelines restricting the number of embryos transferred during IVF. Published research confirms that these guidelines have led to fewer embryos being transferred and a marked reduction in the number of high order multiple births.
EDSPA Board of Directors:
Robert T. Terenzio, Esq., Chairman of the Board
Evelina Weidman Sterling, Chair Education/Consulting
Souad Dreyfus, Chair Egg Donation
Sharon LaMothe, Chair Surrogacy
Andrea Bryman, LMFT, Chair Medical/Psychology
Marna Gatlin, Chair Non-Profit
Theresa M Erickson, Esq., Chair Member at Large
About EDSPA
The Egg Donation and Surrogacy Professional Association accomplishes it's mission by providing a forum for education, communication and advocacy on behalf of patients, physicians, attorneys, agencies and affiliated professionals in the field of Third Party Family Formation.
Women warned not to freeze their eggs for social reasons
I wrote about this topic a few articles ago but wanted to share this one out of the UK with you. What are your thoughts?
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
Women warned not to freeze their eggs for social reasons
William Fletcher
Progress Educational Trust
09 February 2009
The UK's Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists and the British Fertility Society have released a joint statement expressing serious concerns about women who freeze their eggs for non-medical reasons such as pursuit of their career. The success rate for pregnancies involving eggs that were frozen is very low and babies conceived in this manner may be less healthy than those from fresh eggs.
'The image that's portrayed is that a woman in her late 20s or early 30s can establish a relationship 10 or 15 years later and then take the eggs out of the freezer, fertilize them with the partner's sperm and have the baby', says Professor Bill Ledger, a professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Sheffield University and a member of the Human Fertilization and Embryology Authority (HFEA). 'The chance of a baby from a frozen egg with vitrification is less than 6 per cent per egg. By doing the egg freezing for social reasons, they are taking a huge gamble for their future', he added.
As well as low success rates Professor Ledger pointed out that babies that are born from frozen eggs could be less healthy than those conceived from fresh eggs and warned that: 'We should be very careful about performing medical procedures on healthy people'. He believes that is ethically questionable for women to freeze their eggs purely for 'lifestyle reasons' but added that it was legitimate, for example, for a young woman with cancer to have her eggs frozen before chemotherapy seriously damaged her potential to bear children.
The draft regulations to implement the Human Fertility and Embryology Act, as amended in relation to the storage of gametes, state that gametes (oocytes in this scenario) can only be stored for ten years. Unless during that period the person for whom the eggs are stored has, or is likely to develop, significant and premature infertility, this period cannot be extended. Egg freezing beyond this time at any of the 41 infertility clinics in the UK where this service is offered is therefore excluded for any non-medical reason.
Despite this time limit, 33 women chose to freeze their eggs for non-medical reasons in 2006, according to official figures from the HFEA. However, this figure more than doubled to 78 in 2007, even though the procedure is expensive at a cost of about £5,000.
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
Women warned not to freeze their eggs for social reasons
William Fletcher
Progress Educational Trust
09 February 2009
The UK's Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists and the British Fertility Society have released a joint statement expressing serious concerns about women who freeze their eggs for non-medical reasons such as pursuit of their career. The success rate for pregnancies involving eggs that were frozen is very low and babies conceived in this manner may be less healthy than those from fresh eggs.
'The image that's portrayed is that a woman in her late 20s or early 30s can establish a relationship 10 or 15 years later and then take the eggs out of the freezer, fertilize them with the partner's sperm and have the baby', says Professor Bill Ledger, a professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Sheffield University and a member of the Human Fertilization and Embryology Authority (HFEA). 'The chance of a baby from a frozen egg with vitrification is less than 6 per cent per egg. By doing the egg freezing for social reasons, they are taking a huge gamble for their future', he added.
As well as low success rates Professor Ledger pointed out that babies that are born from frozen eggs could be less healthy than those conceived from fresh eggs and warned that: 'We should be very careful about performing medical procedures on healthy people'. He believes that is ethically questionable for women to freeze their eggs purely for 'lifestyle reasons' but added that it was legitimate, for example, for a young woman with cancer to have her eggs frozen before chemotherapy seriously damaged her potential to bear children.
The draft regulations to implement the Human Fertility and Embryology Act, as amended in relation to the storage of gametes, state that gametes (oocytes in this scenario) can only be stored for ten years. Unless during that period the person for whom the eggs are stored has, or is likely to develop, significant and premature infertility, this period cannot be extended. Egg freezing beyond this time at any of the 41 infertility clinics in the UK where this service is offered is therefore excluded for any non-medical reason.
Despite this time limit, 33 women chose to freeze their eggs for non-medical reasons in 2006, according to official figures from the HFEA. However, this figure more than doubled to 78 in 2007, even though the procedure is expensive at a cost of about £5,000.
Friday, February 20, 2009
"One can't believe impossible things." Oh Really?
Alice laughed. "There's no use trying," she said. "One can't
believe impossible things."
"I dare say you haven't much practice," said the
Queen. "When I was your age I did it for half an hour a day.
Why sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible
things before breakfast."
-Lewis Carroll, Through the Looking-Glass
Hey out there. You know who you are...don't give up hope. Just remember that if one way doesn't work out all you need to do is keep an open mind and look at a different prospective. You can get what you want. Impossible is just a word.
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
Thursday, February 19, 2009
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Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Surrogacy: Why is an Escrow Agent/Account a good idea?
Escrow accounts. Some swear by them. Some hate the idea. But I am here to give you MY 'professional' opinion and hopefully you will see the beauty in the simplicity of the reason behind an Escrow account.
At the signing of the contract the IP's deposit the entire amount of the surrogate fees including an estimate of co-pays, possible child care, possible housekeeping, lost wages etc. with their chosen escrow agent. (That person or firm will most likely be your own attorney.) It may cost an additional $1,000 but it will be well worth it. My motto has always been don't mix money with babies and this keeps it as separate as it can be under these circumstances. (The escrow account is not set up for medical, clinical, psychological, or anything other then the surrogate's direct surrogacy/pregnancy related expenses.) If you are working with a first time surrogate with insurance this amount could be between $18,000 and $22,000. Yes, that is a lot of your hard earned money to have in an non-interest baring account but it's best to have everyone involved know that if there is a pregnancy the money is there and ready. If, and I mean IF, there is no pregnancy, then any money not used will be returned back to the IP's. (Money may have been subtracted for start of medications fees or transfer fees, mileage, lost wages, etc.)
Moving forward....your surrogate is pregnant. She has receipts and monthly base fees and possible travel expenses. Money that she needs to get from somewhere. If the money has been deposited with an escrow agent then your surrogate only needs to have financial conversations with that person handling your money. The escrow agent then will call you, the IP's, if there is an unusual request that isn't specified in the contract. Usually, if all requests are only the base fee or maternity clothing etc, then a monthly statement is sent unless another arrangement has been made. Having your surrogate only discuss money, payments, reimbursements, compensation, (whatever you want to call it) with your escrow agent allows YOU, the IP's, to have conversations with your surrogate about the more important issues that are going on like the latest OB appointments, how she is feeling, what she is planning on doing next weekend, how her family is, what color you are painting the baby's room....much more pleasant don't you think, then "Hey, I need $5.95 for that prescription I picked up yesterday." or "I hate to say anything but my monthly check is a 10 days late."
I mentioned that these were simple reasons to have an escrow agent however writing it all out made it seem longer then I wanted! In all seriousness, please consider making your life easier and your surrogate more comfortable by using an escrow account. Its worth it in the end!
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
At the signing of the contract the IP's deposit the entire amount of the surrogate fees including an estimate of co-pays, possible child care, possible housekeeping, lost wages etc. with their chosen escrow agent. (That person or firm will most likely be your own attorney.) It may cost an additional $1,000 but it will be well worth it. My motto has always been don't mix money with babies and this keeps it as separate as it can be under these circumstances. (The escrow account is not set up for medical, clinical, psychological, or anything other then the surrogate's direct surrogacy/pregnancy related expenses.) If you are working with a first time surrogate with insurance this amount could be between $18,000 and $22,000. Yes, that is a lot of your hard earned money to have in an non-interest baring account but it's best to have everyone involved know that if there is a pregnancy the money is there and ready. If, and I mean IF, there is no pregnancy, then any money not used will be returned back to the IP's. (Money may have been subtracted for start of medications fees or transfer fees, mileage, lost wages, etc.)
Moving forward....your surrogate is pregnant. She has receipts and monthly base fees and possible travel expenses. Money that she needs to get from somewhere. If the money has been deposited with an escrow agent then your surrogate only needs to have financial conversations with that person handling your money. The escrow agent then will call you, the IP's, if there is an unusual request that isn't specified in the contract. Usually, if all requests are only the base fee or maternity clothing etc, then a monthly statement is sent unless another arrangement has been made. Having your surrogate only discuss money, payments, reimbursements, compensation, (whatever you want to call it) with your escrow agent allows YOU, the IP's, to have conversations with your surrogate about the more important issues that are going on like the latest OB appointments, how she is feeling, what she is planning on doing next weekend, how her family is, what color you are painting the baby's room....much more pleasant don't you think, then "Hey, I need $5.95 for that prescription I picked up yesterday." or "I hate to say anything but my monthly check is a 10 days late."
I mentioned that these were simple reasons to have an escrow agent however writing it all out made it seem longer then I wanted! In all seriousness, please consider making your life easier and your surrogate more comfortable by using an escrow account. Its worth it in the end!
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
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Monday, February 16, 2009
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Why do surrogates need an attorney?
Some are seeing this topic and saying...this is a no brainer...but there are others who have waived their rights to an attorney and regretted it. (or not...let me hear from you if that is the case!) I hate to admit it but I waived the right to an attorney for my second surrogacy. Yep, I thought that I knew it all...inside and out...after all I had been a surrogate before. I owned a Surrogacy Agency. I helped others discuss contract issues. Cocky.
Now my situation wasn't that sticky. It could have been a lot worse! There were just times when I wished I could pick up the phone and talk to someone who knew my side, my contract, and could answer my questions without a disclaimer/reminder that they worked for the IP's. Because that's what happens when you, the Surrogate, don't have your own personal attorney, you end up calling your IP's attorney hoping to get some answers or direction. Needless to say you want to avoid THAT phone call. It doesn't make you feel very special.
Most IP's only provide enough money for the contract review. (between $600 and $1,000) This means that you have a attorney (hopefully one who knows Assisted Reproductive Law) review the proposed contract with you. Your attorney would explain to you what you are agreeing to, what issues can be enforced, what the risks are if you change your mind, what will happen if you breech your contract and on and on and on. You can ask all the legal questions you want and have a dialog with your attorney that should make you very comfortable with your understanding of what exactly you (and your spouse) are signing. Contract changes can be made and negations regarding expenses can be resolved.
If you are in the middle of your surrogacy and all of a sudden you are asked to do something not in your contract or something happens and it doesn't seem clear the best way to handle the situation, you should be able to call the attorney who reviewed your contract and ask your question. If a difficult or confusing issue arises and you need to hire an attorney at least you have a starting point, someone who was with you in the beginning, and someone who can guide you in your decisions.
Why take any chances? Cover all the bases and have insist on having your own attorney. After all, your Intended Parents are represented, why not you?
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
Now my situation wasn't that sticky. It could have been a lot worse! There were just times when I wished I could pick up the phone and talk to someone who knew my side, my contract, and could answer my questions without a disclaimer/reminder that they worked for the IP's. Because that's what happens when you, the Surrogate, don't have your own personal attorney, you end up calling your IP's attorney hoping to get some answers or direction. Needless to say you want to avoid THAT phone call. It doesn't make you feel very special.
Most IP's only provide enough money for the contract review. (between $600 and $1,000) This means that you have a attorney (hopefully one who knows Assisted Reproductive Law) review the proposed contract with you. Your attorney would explain to you what you are agreeing to, what issues can be enforced, what the risks are if you change your mind, what will happen if you breech your contract and on and on and on. You can ask all the legal questions you want and have a dialog with your attorney that should make you very comfortable with your understanding of what exactly you (and your spouse) are signing. Contract changes can be made and negations regarding expenses can be resolved.
If you are in the middle of your surrogacy and all of a sudden you are asked to do something not in your contract or something happens and it doesn't seem clear the best way to handle the situation, you should be able to call the attorney who reviewed your contract and ask your question. If a difficult or confusing issue arises and you need to hire an attorney at least you have a starting point, someone who was with you in the beginning, and someone who can guide you in your decisions.
Why take any chances? Cover all the bases and have insist on having your own attorney. After all, your Intended Parents are represented, why not you?
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
Saturday, February 14, 2009
Friday, February 13, 2009
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Preserving Fertility: Egg Freezing 'Just In Case'
So I have a question....perhaps it will turn into several questions but that's how it goes with me.
I am wondering about this trend to have young women, albeit those who have the financial wherewithal, freeze their eggs way before they are even thinking of becoming mothers. I am all for getting the word out there to the girls and young women regarding the biological clock and educating everyone on what can affect fertility in general, however, I am uncertain of the push to freeze eggs for 'just in case'.
Just in case.....
You don't find Mr. Perfect before your clock stops ticking
Just in case.....
You catch a STD that makes you infertile
Just in case.....
You find out later in life you are infertile or have cancer or have a medical condition that effects your egg production
I am sure that there is a longer list but for those young women who are healthy now, will fear of their fertile future drive them into undergoing an egg retrieval and the yearly cost of keeping their precious DNA frozen? And after they become pregnant on their own will they have the emotional dilemma regarding their now 5 or 10 year old frozen eggs? Will those eggs be destroyed? Will these women now be asked to donate them? What about the woman who doesn't get pregnant on her own and wants to use her eggs....will she be able to even afford the IVF procedure? The medications? What will that option be like over the next decade? AND what happens when the frozen eggs don't result in a pregnancy? What then?
I told you that I may have more then one question.
I have a 13 year old daughter. She knows all about Egg Donation, Surrogacy, and IVF (At least as much as she may want to know) I have given her every vaccination, protected her from exposure of toxic materials (No smoking in OUR house, please!) and generally have given her the tools to keep herself safe. I am drawing the line at freezing her eggs. Because she is a healthy young teen, I see no need of it. If she is unfortunate and is found to have cancer or some other life threatening disease then I may encourage her to freeze her eggs at that time. But for young, healthy women, I think education and fertility awareness is a must. The rest? I am not so sure about.
Sharon LaMothe
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
I am wondering about this trend to have young women, albeit those who have the financial wherewithal, freeze their eggs way before they are even thinking of becoming mothers. I am all for getting the word out there to the girls and young women regarding the biological clock and educating everyone on what can affect fertility in general, however, I am uncertain of the push to freeze eggs for 'just in case'.
Just in case.....
You don't find Mr. Perfect before your clock stops ticking
Just in case.....
You catch a STD that makes you infertile
Just in case.....
You find out later in life you are infertile or have cancer or have a medical condition that effects your egg production
I am sure that there is a longer list but for those young women who are healthy now, will fear of their fertile future drive them into undergoing an egg retrieval and the yearly cost of keeping their precious DNA frozen? And after they become pregnant on their own will they have the emotional dilemma regarding their now 5 or 10 year old frozen eggs? Will those eggs be destroyed? Will these women now be asked to donate them? What about the woman who doesn't get pregnant on her own and wants to use her eggs....will she be able to even afford the IVF procedure? The medications? What will that option be like over the next decade? AND what happens when the frozen eggs don't result in a pregnancy? What then?
I told you that I may have more then one question.
I have a 13 year old daughter. She knows all about Egg Donation, Surrogacy, and IVF (At least as much as she may want to know) I have given her every vaccination, protected her from exposure of toxic materials (No smoking in OUR house, please!) and generally have given her the tools to keep herself safe. I am drawing the line at freezing her eggs. Because she is a healthy young teen, I see no need of it. If she is unfortunate and is found to have cancer or some other life threatening disease then I may encourage her to freeze her eggs at that time. But for young, healthy women, I think education and fertility awareness is a must. The rest? I am not so sure about.
Sharon LaMothe
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
The attitude of entitlement or just poor judgement? 'Tuplet Mom and the IVF Fiasco
I was going to stay far away from commenting on the new Mom of octuplets (BTW that word isn't even on my spell check!) But I feel compelled to weigh in. Nadya Suleman is now the mom of 14. She could, just as easily, been the mom of 7 or 8 if those 6 embryos hadn't split and each and every one hadn't grown into an individual baby. And now they are born and every single person who hears this story is appalled. With the exception of Nadya Suleman. Although she couldn't take care of the first 6 children without the help of food stamps and disability checks (coming in for three of the previous children) and apparently student loans, yet she somehow found the money for the medications and the IVF procedures that have catapulted her into the media's front line with a bang. Eight little bangs I should say.
Ok....what would have happened if Nadya Suleman's IVF procedure had only produced twins or even triplets? I don't think it would have been a blip on the reproductive radar. Certainly not competing for air time along with the new stimulus package and massive fires in Australia! Would anyone really have cared about the fact that this new mom couldn't take care of what she already had? I doubt it. I bet her RE wished that she didn't even darken his door! Perhaps he didn't think all of the embryos had a prayer quality wise. Or Perhaps he wanted to boost his stats. I don't have enough information to judge. But now he and his practice is also under scrutiny as he should be.
I take you back to a post I did, in November I believe, when I returned from the ASRM conference in San Francisco. I was in line to register and was talking to one RE while another Dr, was listening in. I mentioned that I had been a surrogate mother twice and gave birth to two sets of twins. The Dr, who was listening asked how many embryos were transferred and I told him 3 each time. He was instantly disgusted and any Dr, who would transfer 3 embryos as a time! The older RE then asked how old I was for each transfer and I told him at the time of transfer 36 for the first set of twins and 40 for the second....well that did clear the air a bit because there ARE guide lines regarding how many embryos should be transferred depending on the age of the woman. Obviously these ASRM (American Society of Reproductive Medicine) guidelines were not followed in the case of Nadya Suleman.
And because of that fact, we (and I say WE as in the tax payers) have 8 preemies hanging out in CA while the world debates how the US reproductive industry could have allowed THIS to happen! Well folks, we have no regulation. We have guidelines, we have associations and reproductive societies but we don't have the type of regulation that other countries have. Nor do I think that would be the answer. EDSPA, the Egg Donation and Surrogacy Professional Association, is one place where self regulation is being discussed. I believe the ASRM is also a place that has its members practicing self regulation as well as other groups out there. BUT no one can control what one RE is doing. Or Surrogacy/Egg Donation agency or Embryo Donation agency for that matter.
There is a cry out there that says why didn't someone send Nadya Suleman to a psychiatrist. Its common that a surrogate or egg donor have a psychological evaluation but not Intended Parents who are infertile. It doesn't make much sense to have each and every IP who enters a facility with the notion of adding to their family through IVF to be psychologically evaluated (although a few visits with a mental health professional would be a good idea), it still would be prudent for the clinic staff to compile some back ground and use their common sense when choosing who to work with. And if they are unsure then maybe call in a psychologist for a 2nd opinion.
Back to my topic...sorry for the trip around the world....nothing can be done regarding Nadya Suleman. Her babies are here. But maybe we can all learn a lesson about "proceeding with caution" and, as professionals, knowing when to say NO.
Ok....what would have happened if Nadya Suleman's IVF procedure had only produced twins or even triplets? I don't think it would have been a blip on the reproductive radar. Certainly not competing for air time along with the new stimulus package and massive fires in Australia! Would anyone really have cared about the fact that this new mom couldn't take care of what she already had? I doubt it. I bet her RE wished that she didn't even darken his door! Perhaps he didn't think all of the embryos had a prayer quality wise. Or Perhaps he wanted to boost his stats. I don't have enough information to judge. But now he and his practice is also under scrutiny as he should be.
I take you back to a post I did, in November I believe, when I returned from the ASRM conference in San Francisco. I was in line to register and was talking to one RE while another Dr, was listening in. I mentioned that I had been a surrogate mother twice and gave birth to two sets of twins. The Dr, who was listening asked how many embryos were transferred and I told him 3 each time. He was instantly disgusted and any Dr, who would transfer 3 embryos as a time! The older RE then asked how old I was for each transfer and I told him at the time of transfer 36 for the first set of twins and 40 for the second....well that did clear the air a bit because there ARE guide lines regarding how many embryos should be transferred depending on the age of the woman. Obviously these ASRM (American Society of Reproductive Medicine) guidelines were not followed in the case of Nadya Suleman.
And because of that fact, we (and I say WE as in the tax payers) have 8 preemies hanging out in CA while the world debates how the US reproductive industry could have allowed THIS to happen! Well folks, we have no regulation. We have guidelines, we have associations and reproductive societies but we don't have the type of regulation that other countries have. Nor do I think that would be the answer. EDSPA, the Egg Donation and Surrogacy Professional Association, is one place where self regulation is being discussed. I believe the ASRM is also a place that has its members practicing self regulation as well as other groups out there. BUT no one can control what one RE is doing. Or Surrogacy/Egg Donation agency or Embryo Donation agency for that matter.
There is a cry out there that says why didn't someone send Nadya Suleman to a psychiatrist. Its common that a surrogate or egg donor have a psychological evaluation but not Intended Parents who are infertile. It doesn't make much sense to have each and every IP who enters a facility with the notion of adding to their family through IVF to be psychologically evaluated (although a few visits with a mental health professional would be a good idea), it still would be prudent for the clinic staff to compile some back ground and use their common sense when choosing who to work with. And if they are unsure then maybe call in a psychologist for a 2nd opinion.
Back to my topic...sorry for the trip around the world....nothing can be done regarding Nadya Suleman. Her babies are here. But maybe we can all learn a lesson about "proceeding with caution" and, as professionals, knowing when to say NO.
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Monday, February 9, 2009
Sunday, February 8, 2009
MAMA M.I.A
9 month Pregnant M.I.A rocks the crowd and shakes it to the ground at the Grammy awards. Too bad she didn't win, I would have liked to see her and Diplo win best album.
vintage
I have been thinking about "worn" denim lately. This does not refer to to the awful paint-splattered jeans from Abercrombie from a few years back, but jeans that have been loved and fit like a glove. First off, the perfect shade of blue needs to be found, not too light and not too black. Patching jeans that have been worn for an extended period of time with a scrap of another color of denim can be really interesting too. The correct kind of worn-in-denim can create the perfect effect for the day time, but shouldn't be worn at night too often.
Surrogacy – A Solution That Requires Consideration
**Please Note: Today I have invited guest blogger, Holly McCarthy, to share her views on surrogacy. If you would like to be a guest blogger on The Third Party or Surrogacy 101, please contact me at SurroMatchFL@aol.com. Thank you! Sharon LaMothe**
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Infertility is a major problem facing many couples that want to raise a family. For whatever reason, the couple is unable to conceive a child together, and is therefore left with several options. There are many different solutions available for couples who want to share the joy of raising a child together, one of which is surrogacy.
Surrogacy involves having a woman carry a baby to full term, after which she will give the baby to the intended parents. Often, the surrogate is the biological mother, and she is artificially inseminated with the father’s genetic material. In other cases, an embryo is placed in the womb of the surrogate containing genetic material of both intended parents.
There are many issues that arise regarding surrogacy; complications are not limited strictly to the physical well-being of the surrogate and the baby she is carrying. While altruistic surrogacy (helping a couple without financial gain) is rare, more often than not, a contractual agreement is established between the parents and the surrogate.
In some states, surrogate mothers are listed on the birth certificate along with the biological father’s name. In other states, the names of the intended parents are put on the birth certificate as part of the contractual agreement. People considering surrogacy need to look into their respective state’s laws and statutes regarding surrogacy before initiating the process.
Although many intended parents believe wholeheartedly that they are ready for the challenges of parenthood, surrogacy brings up many emotional challenges for all parties involved. Sometimes the intended mother feels left out of the process, while others get very attached to the surrogate. Complex feelings and emotions are involved and this is something that needs to be fully considered before the process is initiated.
Another tough subject is whether the intended parents should stay in touch with the surrogate. While many people might think this would be a good idea, it certainly adds a new dynamic to the relationship that may not end up working out.
The best advice for prospective parents considering surrogacy is to speak with a licensed family counselor, along with your physician and family planning specialist. Taking a good long at the pros and cons of any situation can be quite illuminating and may help work out complex issues before it is too late. Once the decision has been made, preparations can then be undertaken to initiate the surrogacy.
This post was contributed by Holly McCarthy, who writes on the subject of Criminal Justice careers. She invites your feedback at hollymccarthy12@gmail.com
http://www.criminaljusticeusa.com/
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Infertility is a major problem facing many couples that want to raise a family. For whatever reason, the couple is unable to conceive a child together, and is therefore left with several options. There are many different solutions available for couples who want to share the joy of raising a child together, one of which is surrogacy.
Surrogacy involves having a woman carry a baby to full term, after which she will give the baby to the intended parents. Often, the surrogate is the biological mother, and she is artificially inseminated with the father’s genetic material. In other cases, an embryo is placed in the womb of the surrogate containing genetic material of both intended parents.
There are many issues that arise regarding surrogacy; complications are not limited strictly to the physical well-being of the surrogate and the baby she is carrying. While altruistic surrogacy (helping a couple without financial gain) is rare, more often than not, a contractual agreement is established between the parents and the surrogate.
In some states, surrogate mothers are listed on the birth certificate along with the biological father’s name. In other states, the names of the intended parents are put on the birth certificate as part of the contractual agreement. People considering surrogacy need to look into their respective state’s laws and statutes regarding surrogacy before initiating the process.
Although many intended parents believe wholeheartedly that they are ready for the challenges of parenthood, surrogacy brings up many emotional challenges for all parties involved. Sometimes the intended mother feels left out of the process, while others get very attached to the surrogate. Complex feelings and emotions are involved and this is something that needs to be fully considered before the process is initiated.
Another tough subject is whether the intended parents should stay in touch with the surrogate. While many people might think this would be a good idea, it certainly adds a new dynamic to the relationship that may not end up working out.
The best advice for prospective parents considering surrogacy is to speak with a licensed family counselor, along with your physician and family planning specialist. Taking a good long at the pros and cons of any situation can be quite illuminating and may help work out complex issues before it is too late. Once the decision has been made, preparations can then be undertaken to initiate the surrogacy.
This post was contributed by Holly McCarthy, who writes on the subject of Criminal Justice careers. She invites your feedback at hollymccarthy12@gmail.com
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Life Support; Does This Belong in Your Surrogacy Contract?
If you are wondering what Life Support (Life support - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia) has to do with surrogacy, you are not the first. I personally had never even thought of Life Support when volunteering to become a surrogate mother. Why would I, or anyone for that matter, even be thinking about such a dismal ending...when Life Support would be needed. Well...Intended Parents are thinking about it. (especially after investing well over $60,000+/-) The Attorney's are talking about it. All hospitals highly recommend that any patient that walks (or is wheeled) through their doors has a Living Will (Advance health care directive - Wikipedia,) Why? Because you, the carrier, could become brain dead through an accident while pregnant with someone else's baby and the decision to keep your body alive will be raised. (and argued, and debated, and discussed....)
A scenario needling Life Support might look like this: Suzy Surrogate is 7 months pregnant and is involved in a car accident. Although the baby seems unharmed Suzy is unresponsive and is put on Life Support. Suzy's family is torn and despondent. The Intended Parents are focused on their unborn child.... what should be done? Needless to say that if this long shot of a situation were brought up during the contract negations, when everyone was not in crisis mode, this horrifying nightmare might have some clear cut guidelines to follow (as stated in the contract). What the IP's wishes were, what time frame the surrogate would be on life support, who would pay for that same support if the insurance company/ hospital did not agree, what role would the surrogate's family play etc.
I have heard some complain that contracts are getting too long however it is best to make sure as many scenarios are covered as possible and that these hard conversations take place when everyone is calm, cool and collected and can make rational decisions in the best interested of everyone involved including the unborn baby.
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
A scenario needling Life Support might look like this: Suzy Surrogate is 7 months pregnant and is involved in a car accident. Although the baby seems unharmed Suzy is unresponsive and is put on Life Support. Suzy's family is torn and despondent. The Intended Parents are focused on their unborn child.... what should be done? Needless to say that if this long shot of a situation were brought up during the contract negations, when everyone was not in crisis mode, this horrifying nightmare might have some clear cut guidelines to follow (as stated in the contract). What the IP's wishes were, what time frame the surrogate would be on life support, who would pay for that same support if the insurance company/ hospital did not agree, what role would the surrogate's family play etc.
I have heard some complain that contracts are getting too long however it is best to make sure as many scenarios are covered as possible and that these hard conversations take place when everyone is calm, cool and collected and can make rational decisions in the best interested of everyone involved including the unborn baby.
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
Saturday, February 7, 2009
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Wednesday, February 4, 2009
Military Wives, Surrogacy and the Insurance Issue
It's just amazing what happens when the media hits a dry spell....there is a little lull in the political arena so it seems that the spotlight is now being cast on the Military. And not on the men and women fighting in Iraq or elsewhere in the world but on the wives who have offered themselves as surrogates for people who can't have a baby any other way. It truly is disgusting some of the "headlines" used for these articles:
"Military wives spawn rise in Surrogacy"
"Military Wives Cashing in as Surrogates"
" Baby Carriers: Cold Cash or Warm Heart - Why Military Wives Dominate the Surrogate Baby Business"
"Surrogate Army Brats"
"The Curious Lives of Surrogates"
It really burns me when I read the comments more then the articles themselves. I do understand the health care issue. Taking advantage of any insurance company is not right under any situation but focusing in on THIS...surrogacy... in such a negative way. In most surrogate cases the Surrogate in question already has health insurance in place. She has already been paying the monthly premiums (one way or another) and has every intention of continuing to do so. She has a maternity rider that may have been used once or twice....she will only use it for her prenatal care, labor and delivery. If a surrogate does not have insurance then the IP's are the ones who pay for her policy in 99% of the cases. A very few IP's may choose to go self pay and have money up front for the OB and the hospital. All parties, IP's and SM's know that this Insurance Policy....Military or otherwise WILL NOT pay for any IVF, Pharmaceuticals, or Egg Retrievals. The Insurance is used ONLY for the pregnancy.
I can understand that some insurance companies see that being pregnant 'voluntarily' might cross the line at what the real intention is for their policy. (which is to cover the pregnant mother who intends to keep the baby) But there are many woman who choose to give that baby up for adoption the second they find out they are PG via HPT or blood test. Should those women go without coverage because they choose not to keep and raise their child?
Intended Parents will be going to these same insurance companies to buy insurance for their newborns...is that not actually repaying the Insurance Company back in some way? And as for the Military Ins....please....I don't believe that the numbers are as large as reported...at least not from the numbers I am familiar with...I think that this has been blown way out of proportion and, while maybe worthy of investigation, has taken all respect and dignity out of the world of surrogacy. Strip away Insurance....what little money is involved is used to take care of the pregnant mother. Doesn't she deserve that at least? To drag the name of surrogacy through the mud just because some people find it unpleasant that military wives are doing it with the assumption that it will supplement their income and that IP's are too cheap not to get another policy for them is ridiculous. There is a bigger picture here and it would be nice if the media, FOR ONCE, would take that into consideration....bringing a new life into this world through the generosity of surrogates and their families!
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
"Military wives spawn rise in Surrogacy"
"Military Wives Cashing in as Surrogates"
" Baby Carriers: Cold Cash or Warm Heart - Why Military Wives Dominate the Surrogate Baby Business"
"Surrogate Army Brats"
"The Curious Lives of Surrogates"
It really burns me when I read the comments more then the articles themselves. I do understand the health care issue. Taking advantage of any insurance company is not right under any situation but focusing in on THIS...surrogacy... in such a negative way. In most surrogate cases the Surrogate in question already has health insurance in place. She has already been paying the monthly premiums (one way or another) and has every intention of continuing to do so. She has a maternity rider that may have been used once or twice....she will only use it for her prenatal care, labor and delivery. If a surrogate does not have insurance then the IP's are the ones who pay for her policy in 99% of the cases. A very few IP's may choose to go self pay and have money up front for the OB and the hospital. All parties, IP's and SM's know that this Insurance Policy....Military or otherwise WILL NOT pay for any IVF, Pharmaceuticals, or Egg Retrievals. The Insurance is used ONLY for the pregnancy.
I can understand that some insurance companies see that being pregnant 'voluntarily' might cross the line at what the real intention is for their policy. (which is to cover the pregnant mother who intends to keep the baby) But there are many woman who choose to give that baby up for adoption the second they find out they are PG via HPT or blood test. Should those women go without coverage because they choose not to keep and raise their child?
Intended Parents will be going to these same insurance companies to buy insurance for their newborns...is that not actually repaying the Insurance Company back in some way? And as for the Military Ins....please....I don't believe that the numbers are as large as reported...at least not from the numbers I am familiar with...I think that this has been blown way out of proportion and, while maybe worthy of investigation, has taken all respect and dignity out of the world of surrogacy. Strip away Insurance....what little money is involved is used to take care of the pregnant mother. Doesn't she deserve that at least? To drag the name of surrogacy through the mud just because some people find it unpleasant that military wives are doing it with the assumption that it will supplement their income and that IP's are too cheap not to get another policy for them is ridiculous. There is a bigger picture here and it would be nice if the media, FOR ONCE, would take that into consideration....bringing a new life into this world through the generosity of surrogates and their families!
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
Monday, February 2, 2009
{Re-Up} New Album: "Scream" - Chris Cornell
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02. Time
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04. Get Up
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06. Never Far Away
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Sunday, February 1, 2009
Maret Winter Formal Dance
We had a blast last night at the Maret Winter formal, everyone showed us love and we really appreciated it. We want to thank everyone who came out and we want to thank Charles for recommending us to the school. I hope we see you guys again soon.
Embryo Donation: One Option for Intended Parents
Intended Parents who have been lucky enough to have had a child or more through ART may still have several frozen embryos waiting for a decision to be made as to what their future holds. Are the IP's going to try for another child? Perhaps they are done with building their own family and are considering donating the embryos to science for embryonic stem cell research. Maybe they believe that destroying them is the best thing for their piece of mind. And, of course, there is Embryo Donation.
Embryo Donation happens when, typically, genetic parents donate the embryos to a Fertility Clinic or Embryo Bank where they are Cryogenically preserved until a carrier is found for them. Most often the process of matching the embryo(s) with the prospective parents is conducted by the agency itself, at which time the clinic transfers ownership of the Embryos to the prospective parents. The amount of screening the embryo has already undergone is largely dependent on the Genetic Parents' own IVF clinic and process. The embryo recipient may elect to have her own embryologist conduct further testing.
Below I have listed several web sites that may answer any further questions regarding Embryo Donation. This is a very personal and private decision and one that requires a lot of thought. Researching the options will give a much clearer picture and hopefully allow you to make the best decision for YOU!
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
http://dreamababy.com/embryo-donation.htm
http://www.bethany.org/A55798/bethanyWWW.nsf/0/13319FF58869FDA585257275007237B8
http://www.cbhd.org/resources/reproductive/cunningham_2003-04-17.htm
http://www.embryoconnection.org/
http://www.nightlight.org/snowflakeadoption.htm
Embryo Donation happens when, typically, genetic parents donate the embryos to a Fertility Clinic or Embryo Bank where they are Cryogenically preserved until a carrier is found for them. Most often the process of matching the embryo(s) with the prospective parents is conducted by the agency itself, at which time the clinic transfers ownership of the Embryos to the prospective parents. The amount of screening the embryo has already undergone is largely dependent on the Genetic Parents' own IVF clinic and process. The embryo recipient may elect to have her own embryologist conduct further testing.
Below I have listed several web sites that may answer any further questions regarding Embryo Donation. This is a very personal and private decision and one that requires a lot of thought. Researching the options will give a much clearer picture and hopefully allow you to make the best decision for YOU!
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
http://dreamababy.com/embryo-donation.htm
http://www.bethany.org/A55798/bethanyWWW.nsf/0/13319FF58869FDA585257275007237B8
http://www.cbhd.org/resources/reproductive/cunningham_2003-04-17.htm
http://www.embryoconnection.org/
http://www.nightlight.org/snowflakeadoption.htm
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