In all seriousness...I just have to laugh when someone says they want to be pregnant by, say, the new year or by the time school starts or before their kids are out of school....or they would like to be matched by next month so they can hit that next cycle or better yet, have a transfer in 2 months.... Don't people realize in the world of A.R.T. that it truly is an art form? First, you have to find that perfect couple or surrogate, then you have to meet the RE and be tested. There is a visit to the psychologist as well. From there contracts have to be drawn up, agreed upon and signed...and don't forget that all of these professionals have their own time tables! If an egg donor is being used then HER cycle needs to be taken into consideration...and lets see, the clinic may "batch you" which means that they only do transfers one week during the month...and perhaps not in December or July. And then there are the unplanned situations that may arise during all of this 'scheduling' like a death in the family, the ED didn't stimulate well, the frozen embryos all died during the thaw, a polyp was found during the mock transfer and needs to be removed and so on and so forth.
The best way to protect yourself from continual frustration is not to have any time expectations. I don't mean allow people to drag their feet or for situations to continue to go unresolved but to move forward at a steady pace. Keep in close contact with everyone involved and try to have an idea of the issues that may pop up or slow down the process. Work on each phase of your ART journey without jumping too far ahead of yourself. Be aware of everyone else's time constraints and the future will take care of itself!
Sharon
www.InfertilityAnswers.net
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