Nadya Suleman Has Regrets...Really?!

Well...FINALLY it seems, a little too late, Nadya is having regrets! Needless to say I feel that she just needs to look forward and not be forced to look back on decisions that can not be un-made. Her children are here and each and every one needs love and affection and should not feel that by being born they have ruined anyone's life. They didn't ask to be here...but they are...and they are individuals and should be treated as such. Just my thoughts!


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Octomom: ‘I Screwed Up My Life. I Screwed Up My Kids’ Lives.’
By Robert Franklin, Esq. | Jun 7, 2009
Now she tells us. Six months after giving birth to octuplets to go along with her already existing six children, Nadya Suleman regrets the whole thing, according to this article (Huffington Post, 6/4/09). She also feels "so much guilt for" not informing the sperm donor of her decision to have more of his children. He apparently told her he didn't want her to have the remaining frozen embyos implanted, but she did it anyway.

So the piece of work also known as Nadya Suleman has now officially joined the vast horde of people, that includes her own mother, who think her decision to have eight additional children was wrong. What feminists like Patricia Williams at The Nation think about this recent development, I don't know. I suspect they won't change their view that any criticism of Suleman's choices constitutes, in Williams' words, "a perfect storm of eugenics."

One other thing. Many people have blamed the doctor or the fertility clinic for Suleman's octuplets. That's wrongheaded for one obvious reason. As I understand how fertility clinics operate, women undergoing IVF almost invariably have more than one fertilized egg implanted. That's because implantation is not successful in all cases, so it make sense to try several in the hopes that at least one will become viable. If more than one does, all but one can then be removed. Doctors and clinics explain that procedure beforehand for obvious reasons. Of course, I don't know if it was explained to Suleman, but it's a routine part of IVF, so I'd bet it was.

But once implantation has occurred and the embryos are developing, no one but the mother has any authority about how many are allowed to continue. In Suleman's, as in every case, the clinic and the doctor have no control over what transpires once implantation is accomplished. If Mom wants eight children, Mom gets eight children. Most moms don't, but this one did and there was not a thing the doctor could have done about it.

So let's all agree to stop pretending that anyone but Nadya Suleman is responsible for Nadya Suleman's choices.